Idiom: to take __ to heart; used as a verb
Chrissie: Can you believe Patti said that?
Steven: What did she say?
Chrissie: She said that I should just quit
the tennis tournament now so that I’m not embarrassed later. She said she’s
going to kick my butt!
Steven: Oh, you shouldn’t take anything she says to heart. She’s just very competitive and loves talking
trash* to her opponents.
Chrissie: Really? She was so aggressive that she kind of scared
Steven: She’s not going to hurt you, and
I’m sure you’re not the only person she has said that to. Just focus on how good it’s going to feel when
you prove her wrong.
Chrissie: Yeah… I guess I am a more
Steven: There you go. Keep telling yourself that!
Meaning: When people “take
something to heart,” it means that they consider a comment as being
personally significant. Usually used
with a noun or “it” in the middle, the expression is often used with
a negative when telling someone not to take something personally. In the example above, Chrissie is worried
about Patti’s comment, but Steven says that Patti is always aggressive when she
competes, and that Chrissie shouldn’t
take her comments to heart.
The expression can also be used without a negative, as can be seen in
the following example from an email:
for your feedback on my behavior at work.
At first, I got a little defensive after you told me I “shouldn’t
be preaching at work.” I thought you
were attacking my religious beliefs, and my feelings were hurt. But then I thought about how I would feel if
someone was forcing their beliefs on me at work, and I realized that you were
not attacking me personally; I was just making you uncomfortable! So I took
your comments to heart, and I’m
sorry I made you uncomfortable. I will try not to talk about religion at work
any more, and if I’m ever making you feel uncomfortable again, please let me know.
In this example, Maureen is writing an
email to Lou thanking him for feedback on her behavior. In the email, she says that his comment about
preaching at work initially hurt her feelings, but that she eventually
understood, and that she took his
comments to heart. This means that she applied them to herself
and it made her change her opinion and/or behavior.
*Note: to “talk trash” means to speak in negative, insulting or abusive ways; it is commonly used when speaking to competitors.
This idiom is from LSI’s new edition
of “Reading Horizons,” which will be used in the Level 6 Reading
classes. For more information, please visit https://www.languagesystems.com/